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This is a Facebook message I just found hidden in my inbox (sometimes Facebook’s habit of hiding messages works out in a person's favor), from someone named Cameron Baird. I know people usually blot out the names of people who say ignorant things on Facebook. But, so much of my life went on display after Salon picked up my post about my medical abortion that I don’t feel like letting people like this hide from their words. For those using screen readers the image is a racist comment about me & my appearance and my history of medical care that reads:

[Cameron Baird

You the lying nigger bitch that wanted a free abortion? What I can’t figure out is how your ugly ass got pregnant!!!! Your old man blind? Fuck you you lying cunt. How many babies have you left on the floor so far?]

This isn’t the only message like this one I’ve gotten, & for a long time I wasn’t going to post any of them. But time & distance seem to have thickened my skin up a little bit. This is what happens when you are a black woman who blogs about her life & people don’t like what you have to say.

Date: 2011-12-10 09:10 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] jackandahat
Good on you for sharing - people who say shit like this should be shown for what they are, in public. They don't deserve protection from their own actions.

I'm sorry you're getting this.

Date: 2011-12-10 10:06 pm (UTC)
oncejadedtwicesnarked: A kitteh aims a gun out of the window (Angry kitteh)
From: [personal profile] oncejadedtwicesnarked
Sorry you are dealing with this (again)

*sends good wishes your way if you want*

Date: 2011-12-11 04:04 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] jesse_the_k
Damn, that's ugly.

Date: 2011-12-11 07:12 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] lovepeaceohana
I am sorry that you are dealing with shit like this. It ain't right.

Date: 2011-12-11 09:50 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] commodorified
I so much wish you didn't need the thicker skin. That is utterly vile.

Date: 2011-12-11 10:26 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] akycha
That is entirely disgusting and vicious and small. I don't have words for what a little tiny dogturd of a human being he must be.

I wish that there were fewer people like this in the world and more like you.

Date: 2011-12-12 05:28 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] brigid
Didn't you know? FREE abortions are only for attractive white lying bitches. Or something. I'm sorry you're dealing with so much fallout from your post. That's some real dregs of humanity shit, or should be... it's depressing that it's such a common view.

Date: 2011-12-14 08:41 am (UTC)
commodorified: a capital m, in fancy type, on a coloured background (Default)
From: [personal profile] commodorified
So I've been meaning to tell you this and now seems like a good time:

I like you a lot and I love reading what you post, and I'm really really grateful for you. You're one of the people I think about when I write posts or comments, and it makes me go back and look one more time to try to make sure that what I've written isn't going to be hurtful to you, or just make you shake your head at me.

And, really, I get all the benefit from that because to the degree I manage it that makes me a better writer and a better ally and a less screwed up person.

Also I find you unbelievably, breathtakingly beautiful and you're good company over lunch and you're funny and you are kind and, in short, you are pretty damned fabulous.
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