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Had a conversation with kid #1 (12 years old), about how to handle himself if he’s been stopped by the cops, or someone like Zimmerman. Somewhere in the middle of explaining how to protect his head & neck if a cop decided to kick his ass (happened to my husband when he was 13), and how to respond if a cop calls him a nigger (happened to me at 12) I had this sudden ridiculous urge to start screaming. I didn’t.

I kept talking to him, and he mentioned racist kids at his school & how there’s one teacher who lets them get away with it, but who threatens to write him up if he says anything back. And I asked him if he wanted us to get involved & he said no because he’d already handled it. How did he handle it? He told the teacher to go ahead & write him up and then they could all talk to the principal about the things she lets kids say to him. She left him alone after that so he doesn’t want me to come wreck shit.

Which…says a lot about my kid & about our family I guess, but the reality is that it’s good that he’s learning to defend himself against the system. And shit like that is why we stay in cities & don’t live in suburbs. My parents moved me to burbs in high school, and it was a lot more than one teacher turning a blind eye to racism. I don’t have any answers for other parents of young black males. None. I’m muddling through & hoping that this can all be life lessons he never needs to use.

But, his 19 year old cousin is planning to come over & talk to him about dealing with the cops because he’s been there and done that. And I just…we’re passing down through the generations life lessons on how to handle/avoid police brutality because it’s just that necessary. And people want to claim that America is post racial, or racism isn’t widespread. How many individual acts does it take to make up a system? How many beatings, rapes, & deaths will it take for that system to be acknowledged by everyone?

Date: 2012-03-24 01:33 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] jackandahat
Said it before, say it again - you're a good mum and he's lucky to have you.

Date: 2012-03-24 02:55 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] garpu
I want to hug the shit out of both of you.

Dickweed across the street is a child abuser. I've called the cops on him. Don't think I would've, had the guy been a PoC, because then you're guilty until proven innocent. I also gotta wonder if the dude got a pass because he was white in a mostly-white neighborhood.

Date: 2012-03-24 10:51 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] amara1783
I am so so sorry you are having to have these conversations. I am so sorry his cousin is able to give him advice on this. Fucked up doesn't begin to cover it.

Date: 2012-03-26 04:10 am (UTC)
lovepeaceohana: A tilted artist's rendition of a clear blue ocean with sky and clouds above; text reads "now bring me that horizon..." (Default)
From: [personal profile] lovepeaceohana
I had this sudden ridiculous urge to start screaming.

I don't actually think that's a ridiculous urge. :\

Date: 2012-03-26 09:33 am (UTC)
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I loathe the fact that you have to have those types of conversations with your kids.

I commend you for not screaming. I think I would have gone off and cried in your shoes.

All I have to offer you is a cute kitten icon...

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